If a man looks for rest he will find boredom, if he looks for work he will find rest

I heard this on a show called “The Call Centre” by a chap called “Nev Wilshire”.  Nev is a great guy, super sharp and with a larger than life character.  Read on and you will find out why.

Nev Wilshire is real and he runs a call centre in Swansea.  He is a larger than life, quite colourful character.  The BBC decided to make a fly on the wall documentary about his call centre and goings on.

Part of Nev’s many responsibilities is staff management.  In one of the episodes he had to deal with someone who wasn’t pulling their weight and wasn’t particularly engaged with their work.

I forget what the actual context was but it led Nev to quote something that really resonated with me.  I immediately liked Nev more, when said this.  He had lots of integrity anyway but had a ton more, after
I heard this phrase come out of his mouth.  I think this is a quote that his father used to use.


“If a man looks for rest he will find boredom, if he looks for work he will find rest”

This quote is by Dylan Thomas actually, but I heard Nev say it first.

Throughout the year and our working lives, some of us look forward to the holidays we are going to get and can’t see beyond them.  There are those that won’t do much else other than dream of their next break, but not make the run up to that time productive enough and are always bored and complaining that they are in the wrong job, are bored or are frustrated for some reason.  In my view you should be shattered by being so engaged in your work that the holiday you are looking forward to is going to be that extra bit more worth it.

Then there are those who plan for themes amazing holidays, stick them in the calendar, but then see what they need to do in the meantime (the job in front of them) so they become involved and either learn a whole heap of stuff, while the holiday time arrives, or they get absorbed in a piece (or multiple) pieces of work, that they become influential in the piece of work and start controlling it.

I like to think I’m in the latter camp, constantly looking for work opportunities and interesting projects to be involved in.  It’s a personal way of working for me, but I  like to dive in with everything or not dive in at all.

Q – Where do you sit?
Q – Which do you think is a better place to be, to be in control of your finances and opportunities?




Why progress stops!

Why progress stops!

  • Overwhelmed?  too much other stuff to do or if you think there is? Maybe…
  • Losing sight of the target? Maybe…
  • Lack of planning your schedule? Maybe…
  • No quiet time to think (BINGO!!)

It’s not having time to stop and think OR reflect that’s caused a stop in my ability to write blogs about my experience of working smarter and being able to take control of my finances.

It may seem like a complaint or whinge, but I feel as if I’ve had a little too much to do of late, in the past few weeks.

It hasn’t been work stuff, it’s just been stuff, walking the dog, attending family and other social events, (s0me) travelling for work, which has left little or no space during my week to spend time writing about my experience.

But today (a particular Sunday) I find myself with some quiet time.  My wife and kids are out at a relative’s house, which I managed to avoid (thankfully).  I have caught up with everything work related (I did that on Friday), my phone and social media world is quiet or I have been ignoring it somewhat,  and the dog can’t be walked because it’s about 30 degrees c outside.  So all seems under control with my world (right now).

I knew I had been ignoring my blogging targets of at least one video/blog a week, based on my experience of working smarter and becoming more in control of my finances. So this quiet time allowed me to re-connect with my “Why”.

My “Why” is “I believe that everyone should comfortably be able to take part in work related activities and have a fully engaged personal (family/social) life without feeling stressed by either of these two spaces.  These spaces and the people that operate in them should work in harmony.  Everyone in these spaces should be 100% responsible for their destiny and options and also understand that people in work will not try to slack off if they are treated as responsible folk.

This quiet time prompted a few topics for blogs which have given me something to write about and for others to read and hopefully learn from.

I don’t get enough quiet time to myself, just to “do nothing”, but I often forget I need it.  Quiet time to myself is one thing that brings my brain back to an equilibrium (feeling centred).

If I feel a little stressed then there’s usually too much noise, which needs shutting off, or turning down.


Work from anywhere, by running an online business.

So what does that mean?? I hear you ask.

Before we go on, I know that the picture (below) is a very cliché, but let’s dream a little, at least until you finish reading this blog.


Well it’s not a new concept.

It means that you:

  • aim to create an online presence
  • get yourself known as an expert/influencer in a niche that you are an expert
  • identify an issue/problem within your target group
  • work out a way that you can help them, using your expertise
  • then help them

That’s a nice idea and there are already some challenges there. The point is that there are thousands of people doing this already, within many different niches. A large number of them are actively present, online and making an income from various income streams, but they are free to work from any where in the world AND on their terms.

This means:

  • they can work in the location of their dreams (e.g. in a sunny part of the world, with good beaches and lots of daylight….nice!)
  • they work the hours they choose
  • they can choose to work as much or as little as they want
  • as long as they have a computer (laptop/tablet/smart phone) and an internet connection, they can work

This lifestyle can pay mortgages, allow to buy your car/house outright, put your children through university, fund holiday etc, etc.  You get the picture, right?

But there are some caveats:

  • you need to stay active and in peoples faces, their social media news feeds with blogs and videos etc, especially when starting off in this space
  • you need to create and give away an abundance of value for free, with little nuggets of information that help others get over problems they may be having and possibly prompt them to get in touch with you
  • you need to protect your time or charge a significant amount for it
  • you need to create high value information products to sell, with up-sells to create income from many sources and recurring income
  • you will benefit from joint ventures with other service providers that compliment yours and crossover nicely
  • you need to network with others, online 99% of the time, based on posts you create and respond to other peoples posts
  • you need to stay focused on your niche, the problem your demographic has, and your solutions to it
  • people need to know you are real and do exist, so allowing them to meet you is important, at events you run or at mutual events run by others
  • you need to use all your communication techniques to build up rapport, integrity, trust and respect with anyone you intend to help within your niche
  • rapport, integrity, trust and respect are built up over time, so allow for that time

The goal here is to free you up from a world of “being employed”, “having a boss to answer to”, to a point where you can have the best possible quality family life, while easily running an online business with multiple streams of income.

This doesn’t have to turn into a bashing of employers or the employed way of life. It’s about exploring ways of creating additional and multiple streams of income, so you can happily and harmoniously become more in control of your quality of life.

A blog I follow is that of Darren Rowse – Problogger – https://problogger.com/ .  He got in to blogging not for profit, but (in Darren’s words) “on an impulse one afternoon having seen a blog written by a guy on the other side of the world and witnessing how he used it to amplify his voice and grow a community around his ideas”.

Income came for Darren further in his journey, after exploring the various avenues towards creating an income, in this case as a blogger, but one that has explored many niches and written content on each of them.

I find his manner and approach to sharing knowledge and information very palatable and easy to follow.   The blogs are written in a way that gives the impression that “you can do this too” and that there is a proven system to achieving success from it.

What you’re reading now, is a blog.  This is my attempt to do what this post says, following in the foot steps of a proven blogger.

Good luck in your ventures.


When fear strikes!


Living in fear can keep you in the same place for a life time if not addressed and not dealt with. It can effectively freeze you in time. The signs that you are fearful of something e.g management, of other colleagues, of what might happen, of losing your job, of what others may think, being made to look the fool, can be ever so subtle to other people BUT can be easily masked by you i.e to just plough on with stuff, but the effect (if you have experienced this) can be crippling.

I know of a few people, one ex work colleague in particular comes to my mind. This person has a very large personality and gets a lot of compliments of being “happy go lucky” and “very confident” but internally, this person is (in my view) quite fragile, crippled by fear (of being judged mainly) that they can’t even get their words out in a conversation, without saying the wrong thing. They have a fear of saying the wrong words and they start most conversations off in this state and end up saying the wrong words. This person avoids talking in large groups, especially when there are new people in the group, or with people they don’t see very often.

This person doesn’t go out much, or only goes to places where they deem it safe and where they won’t be called out, or highlighted for this fear. This person masks their fear with by being loud and seemingly “bubbly” but under the surface, there’s so much going on.

This individual is quite an angry person.

This is one example and there are many more.

It’s so important to identify a feeling that stops you from doing stuff (especially if it’s a fear), to deal with it and tackle it head on. It may not be the easiest thing to do but you will definitely experience a sense of accomplishment and peace and even power.


One thing I found useful for dealing with fears, was a little exercise where I invite my fears in (from the outside) for a chat (It’s a metaphor). I get super f****** curious about my fear/s and in a state of wonder and fascination, I ask questions of them. I give them a name, assign them a physical appearance and then relate to them (this is a very personal exercise).

In an extreme state of curiosity, I question them.

I really feel that unwarranted fear pops up (in many forms) for individuals who suffer with high levels of anxiety more times than is necessary. It’s a huge cause for not doing stuff, more so, not savouring every moment of your life.

Random thoughts

dogwithtennisballsThere is a pocket of individuals in the world who are working for an employer and don’t want to be doing that. They have a need for money to pay bills, mortgage, rent, family expenses etc so they exchange their time for money. Some are more engaged with the work they spend their time on than others, making their days more fulfilling than the not so engaged ones.

There are few that are actually good at something else (or are aware of it) beyond the work they perform for their employers.

Some of these employed folk have a dream of one day “doing something for themselves”, more so, not having to go to work for an employer, but earn/obtain the same amount of money (and definitely more), on a monthly basis from their own efforts.

They wish to be able to get up and go about their day, without the pressure of “the man” looking over their shoulder (metaphorically speaking) and making sure he/she is getting the most out of them, for the money given to them.

Some employers, more of the newer tech based startups have a culture of hiring experts to tell them what to do and how to run their businesses. These experts are working for the employer but are extremely confident of their abilities and their worth in the industry, much more than the regular employed person that they become the service offering freelance expert rather than the permanent/contract employee who just shows up and does the time.

These experts are always operating, always functioning. Experts that know their industry and more so what their current and potential clients need them to keep on top of. They are motivated by this and always keep an ear to the ground (staying focussed and prioritising how much attention to put where) that they are always on the ball. It ‘s fantastic to be around these folk, because you can learn so much.

But how do the general employed become the smarter folk who can eventually (because of their movements in the right industry) start selling their services to clients who really want to buy their services.

The industry could be any, the underlying message is becoming the right person.

There is another issue and it’s about knowing what you’re good at or love doing enough of, to become an influencer in that field. The influencer is the top dog and get to this status him/herself by willingly sharing information about what they do (consistently frequently) and they love what they do.

This is a bit mixed up I know, but there is underlying message which is formulating.

To those who want to become their own boss, you’re not going to set-up with a product selling service with clients overnight. What seems like a sure fire way around this issue (which I got caught out by many times) is to start talking on line about the things you love doing, consistently, frequently, from your angle, your perspective and do that now, today.