Know yourself

I really like the idea of having your child go through a Myers Briggs type assessment, while on their ‘year out’ after tertiary education, to work out,  according to e.g. Myers Briggs, their personality type.
We all know what our kids are like, but that’s just because we live with them daily.  They’re cute, funny, annoying, cheeky etc.
The above is not something we can easily structure into a tool or maybe even a profile/statement of them, which they can easily reflect on and understand how it will help them in later life.
The old adage of ‘you can’t really know what you can offer someone (in this case being goods and services, or support) unless you really know yourself’ is very true.
Everyone (IMHO) should know themselves i.e what they’re like, having done some sort of personality test, just so they know

This ‘self’ is obviously very different from social media profiles and has a totally different need.  It won’t necessarily be needed to get you a job, it’s more for the individual to see how they score (from a disassociated perspective) according to how they answer certain questions.   The questions are usually answered pretty swiftly, without thinking for too long about them.  Just going with the gut feeling.
Q – What do you think about this?
Remember, this is all to do with the inidividual knowing themselves and then taking a step into the unknown, but knowing of their arsenal.
Have a read of the following  –
I will be getting Ria to do this as part of this project.  I’m certain that there is more value in doing this testing and then following up with targetted action based on the results.  Not sure exactly ho it will work out, but it feels right.
The only time I’ve gone through any psychometric testing is at work, as part of a personal development plan.  I wonder how different my career/life choices would have been if I’d had this support earlier on in my life…..

There’s usually (IMHO) some pressure to wedge yourself in somewhere..

Taking a year out after a levels usually means getting a job, then after a year, possibly sticking to it, or starting your studies again, maybe do an apprenticeship, possibly just as bewildered as you were a year earlier.

There’s usually (IMHO) some pressure to wedge yourself in somewhere.


There has to be a more effective way of using that “year out” that puts you in a position of becoming super employable, super good at something OR multiple things, so you can be flexible about the choices you make and the path(s) you choose to tread.

That “year out” should nurture you, leaving you feeling content with what you choose to do and confident that you can turn to do anything, to give it a shot and just see how it goes.

As I write this, it feels like a deeper issue than I first imagined.

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If a man looks for rest, he will find boredom, if he looks for work… he will find rest

I heard this on a show called “The Call Centre” by a chap called “Nev Wilshire”.  Nev is a great guy, super sharp and with a larger than life character.  Read on and you will find out why.

Nev Wilshire is real and he runs a call centre in Swansea.  He is a larger than life, quite colourful character.  The BBC decided to make a fly on the wall documentary about his call centre and goings on.

Part of Nev’s many responsibilities is staff management.  In one of the episodes he had to deal with someone who wasn’t pulling their weight and wasn’t particularly engaged with their work.

I forget what the actual context was but it led Nev to quote something that really resonated with me.  I immediately liked Nev more, when said this.  He had lots of integrity anyway but had a ton more, after
I heard this phrase come out of his mouth.  I think this is a quote that his father used to use.


“If a man looks for rest he will find boredom, if he looks for work he will find rest”

This quote is by Dylan Thomas actually, but I heard Nev say it first.

Throughout the year and our working lives, some of us look forward to the holidays we are going to get and can’t see beyond them.  There are those that won’t do much else other than dream of their next break, but not make the run up to that time productive enough and are always bored and complaining that they are in the wrong job, are bored or are frustrated for some reason.  In my view you should be shattered by being so engaged in your work that the holiday you are looking forward to is going to be that extra bit more worth it.

Then there are those who plan for themes amazing holidays, stick them in the calendar, but then see what they need to do in the meantime (the job in front of them) so they become involved and either learn a whole heap of stuff, while the holiday time arrives, or they get absorbed in a piece (or multiple) pieces of work, that they become influential in the piece of work and start controlling it.

I like to think I’m in the latter camp, constantly looking for work opportunities and interesting projects to be involved in.  It’s a personal way of working for me, but I  like to dive in with everything or not dive in at all.

Q – Where do you sit?
Q – Which do you think is a better place to be, to be in control of your finances and opportunities?



Why progress stops!

Why progress stops!

  • Overwhelmed?  too much other stuff to do or if you think there is? Maybe…
  • Losing sight of the target? Maybe…
  • Lack of planning your schedule? Maybe…
  • No quiet time to think (BINGO!!)

It’s not having time to stop and think OR reflect that’s caused a stop in my ability to write blogs about my experience of working smarter and being able to take control of my finances.

It may seem like a complaint or whinge, but I feel as if I’ve had a little too much to do of late, in the past few weeks.

It hasn’t been work stuff, it’s just been stuff, walking the dog, attending family and other social events, (s0me) travelling for work, which has left little or no space during my week to spend time writing about my experience.

But today (a particular Sunday) I find myself with some quiet time.  My wife and kids are out at a relative’s house, which I managed to avoid (thankfully).  I have caught up with everything work related (I did that on Friday), my phone and social media world is quiet or I have been ignoring it somewhat,  and the dog can’t be walked because it’s about 30 degrees c outside.  So all seems under control with my world (right now).

I knew I had been ignoring my blogging targets of at least one video/blog a week, based on my experience of working smarter and becoming more in control of my finances. So this quiet time allowed me to re-connect with my “Why”.

My “Why” is “I believe that everyone should comfortably be able to take part in work related activities and have a fully engaged personal (family/social) life without feeling stressed by either of these two spaces.  These spaces and the people that operate in them should work in harmony.  Everyone in these spaces should be 100% responsible for their destiny and options and also understand that people in work will not try to slack off if they are treated as responsible folk.

This quiet time prompted a few topics for blogs which have given me something to write about and for others to read and hopefully learn from.

I don’t get enough quiet time to myself, just to “do nothing”, but I often forget I need it.  Quiet time to myself is one thing that brings my brain back to an equilibrium (feeling centred).

If I feel a little stressed then there’s usually too much noise, which needs shutting off, or turning down.


My Why (Short and Sweet).


I believe that every individual should feel “FREE” from pressure/stress to live their personal/family lives, fully engaged and happily, in harmony with their work activities. In summary, have a fulfilling quality flexible personal life, alongside an engaged and fulfilling flexible work life.

Any working person should be able to work as flexibly as required, whether employed or running their own business, around their personal/family lives.

The concept of “What is your why? came from a chap called “Simon Sinek“. See this video –

See my video at – about my why.

It took me ages to work out my why. And when it came to me, it was like a explosion went off in my head…something popped! I felt kind of free when I worked it out.

It was a really important point to get this bit done and if you’re reading this, I’m going to take a stab that it will be for you too.

Let me know your thoughts.

Q – Need help with your why?

Q – What is your why?


Work from anywhere, by running an online business.

So what does that mean?? I hear you ask.

Before we go on, I know that the picture (below) is a very cliché, but let’s dream a little, at least until you finish reading this blog.


Well it’s not a new concept.

It means that you:

  • aim to create an online presence
  • get yourself known as an expert/influencer in a niche that you are an expert
  • identify an issue/problem within your target group
  • work out a way that you can help them, using your expertise
  • then help them

That’s a nice idea and there are already some challenges there. The point is that there are thousands of people doing this already, within many different niches. A large number of them are actively present, online and making an income from various income streams, but they are free to work from any where in the world AND on their terms.

This means:

  • they can work in the location of their dreams (e.g. in a sunny part of the world, with good beaches and lots of daylight….nice!)
  • they work the hours they choose
  • they can choose to work as much or as little as they want
  • as long as they have a computer (laptop/tablet/smart phone) and an internet connection, they can work

This lifestyle can pay mortgages, allow to buy your car/house outright, put your children through university, fund holiday etc, etc.  You get the picture, right?

But there are some caveats:

  • you need to stay active and in peoples faces, their social media news feeds with blogs and videos etc, especially when starting off in this space
  • you need to create and give away an abundance of value for free, with little nuggets of information that help others get over problems they may be having and possibly prompt them to get in touch with you
  • you need to protect your time or charge a significant amount for it
  • you need to create high value information products to sell, with up-sells to create income from many sources and recurring income
  • you will benefit from joint ventures with other service providers that compliment yours and crossover nicely
  • you need to network with others, online 99% of the time, based on posts you create and respond to other peoples posts
  • you need to stay focused on your niche, the problem your demographic has, and your solutions to it
  • people need to know you are real and do exist, so allowing them to meet you is important, at events you run or at mutual events run by others
  • you need to use all your communication techniques to build up rapport, integrity, trust and respect with anyone you intend to help within your niche
  • rapport, integrity, trust and respect are built up over time, so allow for that time

The goal here is to free you up from a world of “being employed”, “having a boss to answer to”, to a point where you can have the best possible quality family life, while easily running an online business with multiple streams of income.

This doesn’t have to turn into a bashing of employers or the employed way of life. It’s about exploring ways of creating additional and multiple streams of income, so you can happily and harmoniously become more in control of your quality of life.

A blog I follow is that of Darren Rowse – Problogger – .  He got in to blogging not for profit, but (in Darren’s words) “on an impulse one afternoon having seen a blog written by a guy on the other side of the world and witnessing how he used it to amplify his voice and grow a community around his ideas”.

Income came for Darren further in his journey, after exploring the various avenues towards creating an income, in this case as a blogger, but one that has explored many niches and written content on each of them.

I find his manner and approach to sharing knowledge and information very palatable and easy to follow.   The blogs are written in a way that gives the impression that “you can do this too” and that there is a proven system to achieving success from it.

What you’re reading now, is a blog.  This is my attempt to do what this post says, following in the foot steps of a proven blogger.

Good luck in your ventures.


When fear strikes!


Living in fear can keep you in the same place for a life time if not addressed and not dealt with. It can effectively freeze you in time. The signs that you are fearful of something e.g management, of other colleagues, of what might happen, of losing your job, of what others may think, being made to look the fool, can be ever so subtle to other people BUT can be easily masked by you i.e to just plough on with stuff, but the effect (if you have experienced this) can be crippling.

I know of a few people, one ex work colleague in particular comes to my mind. This person has a very large personality and gets a lot of compliments of being “happy go lucky” and “very confident” but internally, this person is (in my view) quite fragile, crippled by fear (of being judged mainly) that they can’t even get their words out in a conversation, without saying the wrong thing. They have a fear of saying the wrong words and they start most conversations off in this state and end up saying the wrong words. This person avoids talking in large groups, especially when there are new people in the group, or with people they don’t see very often.

This person doesn’t go out much, or only goes to places where they deem it safe and where they won’t be called out, or highlighted for this fear. This person masks their fear with by being loud and seemingly “bubbly” but under the surface, there’s so much going on.

This individual is quite an angry person.

This is one example and there are many more.

It’s so important to identify a feeling that stops you from doing stuff (especially if it’s a fear), to deal with it and tackle it head on. It may not be the easiest thing to do but you will definitely experience a sense of accomplishment and peace and even power.


One thing I found useful for dealing with fears, was a little exercise where I invite my fears in (from the outside) for a chat (It’s a metaphor). I get super f****** curious about my fear/s and in a state of wonder and fascination, I ask questions of them. I give them a name, assign them a physical appearance and then relate to them (this is a very personal exercise).

In an extreme state of curiosity, I question them.

I really feel that unwarranted fear pops up (in many forms) for individuals who suffer with high levels of anxiety more times than is necessary. It’s a huge cause for not doing stuff, more so, not savouring every moment of your life.